I was at a workshop recently, and one of the other participants was complaining because her spouse’s lack of groundedness created difficulties in their relationship. The conversation turned to grounding, and the importance of being grounded, and everyone eagerly shared tips for becoming grounded, staying grounded, living grounded.
And then it was my turn.
There are times it’s good be to grounded. I agree. I think it’s important to know how to ground so we can be grounded when we choose.
Key words – “when we choose”.
I have a lot of air in my astrological chart. I live in my head most of the time. I’m aware of that, and I like it – there’s a lot of interesting stuff going on in there.
Having to take time to eat, drink, sleep, stretch – tedious. I want to be, to create, to think. I do not go to the Michelangelo extreme of sleeping in my clothes to minimize the time I spend on grooming, but I can work right through lunch and breaks without notice. You know those intangible blue energy field characters in The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy? I am so there – no laundry to do, ever again.
What I shared in the workshop is that a lot of the time I am intentionally ungrounded. On purpose, I am not in my body and not connected to my physical reality. And I’m okay with that choice. I was surprised at the strong – and negative – reaction this disclosure elicited. “You can’t work if you’re not grounded!” “You aren’t living when you’re not grounded!” “Being ungrounded is bad!”
Being grounded slows me down. I can reach more intense places with my creativity, think more expansively, and simply do more if I’m not grounded. I can focus my energy in ways that I can’t achieve when I’m grounded. I can move faster, process information more quickly, and make connections and solve problems with greater ease and speed. Creativity, for me, is an out-of-body experience.
Focus? Oh, yeah. I got focus. Having focus and being grounded are two very different states. They’re not mutually exclusive, but if I can choose only one of them, focus wins. Every time.
Grounding slows me down. Makes me stop. Requires that I contend with material plane issues, like food and sleep and the ever-present ache from the back injury I sustained when I was 17.
I do ground for some meetings, events, etc. Some days I’ll ground so I can slow down, give myself a break, be more in the moment and less caught up in everything. Being grounded as much as people seem to think we “should” be grounded doesn’t work for me.
When it’s right, I’m grounded. The rest of the time, I’m focused – and happy – in the ether.