{"id":1507,"date":"2010-05-16T15:42:39","date_gmt":"2010-05-16T23:42:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tarotpathways.com\/?p=1507"},"modified":"2010-05-16T16:07:49","modified_gmt":"2010-05-17T00:07:49","slug":"the-rationalization-card","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tarotpathways.com\/?p=1507","title":{"rendered":"The Rationalization Card"},"content":{"rendered":"

During a recent conversation with James Wanless (soon to be posted as Podcast #46!), we talked about why some clients take so long to shuffle the cards.<\/p>\n

I posited that they take so long to shuffle because, once the reading starts, they can’t take it back. They’re afraid to get the answer they want, because then they have to make a conscious choice – and they’re afraid to accept the responsibility for that choice, afraid to accept responsibility for the consequences of that choice. (This applies equally to us as readers – \u00a0I am not singling out clients in this post.)<\/p>\n

Or, they’re afraid that they won’t get the answer they want, which again requires them to make a choice and take responsibility for that choice.<\/p>\n

If you’ve reached the point where you’re ready to ask the question, you’re ready to hear the answer – even if you think you’re not.<\/p>\n

And even if you’re not ready for the answer, the answer nonetheless is ready for you.<\/p>\n

How many times has a client (or we ourselves) said, “But I can’t do [some action] because [some reason]!” \u00a0It may be a true statement – they can’t vote because they’re not 18 years old; they can’t graduate college because they haven’t completed all their classes yet; they can’t fly a plane because they don’t have a pilot’s license.<\/p>\n

However, for a lot of clients (and a lot of us readers), the reason is really a rationalization. \u00a0How do you know which it is? \u00a0Repeat the statement, and replace “I can’t” with “I choose not to” – what happens?<\/p>\n

And so, I have created the Rationalization Card – an extra card to pull intentionally when appropriate (even if it’s not nice – the truth is not always pleasant):<\/p>\n

\"Rationalization<\/a>

Rationalization Card \u00a9 2010 Anastasia Haysler<\/p><\/div>\n

(No, I’m not a graphic designer using some fancy software program; this is all cut and paste on paper, hence the weird lines and shadows. But I think that just adds to the effect.)<\/p>\n

Printed on cardstock, it’s now in my reading bag, ready to come out at appropriate – or should I say necessary? – times.<\/p>\n

(And yes, there’s one on the wall above my computer. If I won’t use it with myself, I shouldn’t use it with a client.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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